Welcome to Second Season.
We reframe the words in our world to to give space to new meanings that empower us and make us feel alive.
What is our Second Season?
What happens when what used to make sense no longer does?
In this midlife confronting of who we were and who we are now, we must learn a new language. Together we revisit, redefine, and reframe our perspectives as we move into our second season to discover the essence of who we really are today.
The space between where we were and where were going feels unknown and unsure. Second Season takes it one word at a time, changing the way we think so we can transform the way we respond to life in this season and beyond.
Second season is not a one size fits all or some roadmap on what to do or feel or what not to do. I have far from figured it out, but stay in a state of being curious of changes I’m confronting and in each word, find a new meaning and wonder in them. I do this through my own reflection, personal stories, and a lot of vulnerability.
As I move through this next branch of human existence, I want to feel empowered AND I want to empower other women with these words in their own life. The time in your life when you slowly begin to discover this peculiar, yet beautiful woman staring back at you.
As I’m writing about these words, I am taking the time to observe my own life through a different lens. Your’e not cruising through life all “young aged” and then one day BOOM you wake up to be “middle aged.” The transformation from young old to middle old is sneaky and slow. Most days the transformation could go all together unnoticed, almost invisible. I’m excited for this journey to watch the unfolding in a woman’s life.
I feel wiser, softer, more confident and more in tune with the woman I am right now. The woman I am at 43, looks VERY different from the woman I was at 23. HOWEVER, the woman I was at 33, although very much a part of the woman I am today, is almost unrecognizable. The 12 year old little girl, to the 22 year old world traveler, to the 32 year young new mother, to now, to the woman I will be at 52. It's all a part of me. All part of what makes me whole.
The evolution from first to second season is beautiful, but it is different and different can sometimes feel strange and uncomfortable. There are seasons of hurt and hardship, but also of strength and stability. I am not the exact same woman in this mid-life chapter. How could I possibly be? I have been so many different women to so many different people. I have been so many different women to myself.
I feel and respond differently to themes in my life at this age; themes that I have witnessed for a long time. The lens, it's just different.
I also want to know that this is”normal” and I'm now part of a club and community that is also embracing this change with wonder and curiosity. There are more women in their 40s right now in the world than there ever have been. Ever. Think about that. There are so many of us orbiting around each other. We are a force. We are warriors ready to fight the next battle of change with grace. We are the byproducts of mindfulness. We're proud of the decades behind us, yet seeking out a new revolution. We are reframing self love, the idea of a wildly authentic mindset, and reframing practices to channel inner peace and unnerving confidence. It's our second season. We are confronting the change and becoming. And here in this substack we are talking about it. All of it.
We’re mastering the life juggle, we’re raising kids (and now our parents), we’re having incredible careers (and burnouts), we’re holding the marriage together (sometimes by a thread), we’re making some good (and bad) financial decisions, we’re wiser (and more tired), we’re more confident (yet still lost), and most importantly, we’ve survived. Now, as the mid-life “confronting” begins, lets take a deep breath and know we got this. I do believe the best is yet to come. Our 40s are the best time for this renewed sense of who we are, what we want, and how we’re going to get it. We have to recalibrate and desensitize. We have to reflect and refeel.
When you redefine a word in your head, you’re giving yourself permission to feel it differently. It suddenly shifts from being a foreign concept to one that can be embraced and given a new meaning.
Naturally, anything you put energy into and understand it better, you gain more from the concept or feel more from the experience. Like a good bottle of wine, until you understand what makes it “good” you’re unable to describe why it’s good. Or Like watching a sport, once you understand the rules and goals of the game, then you can better experience what you’re watching. This also goes for obvious concepts in our life like parenting, joy, guilt, style, health, etc. we just don’t give these words the space for a new meaning. But as we evolve, so are these concepts in our lives. It’s time to reframe our experience with them.
Ok so you’re thinking, all that is well and good, but I’m bombarded all day with concepts that fill my mind, how in the heck am I suppose to remember in the moment to refame and reset? I’m glad you asked. I live on mantras. Mantras are those few key words that jolt you back into remembering your truth. The quick kick in the butt of why you are stronger than you feel at that moment. These are a few words that remind us of the desired state of association and perspective you seek. Mantras are the power tool. And if we can drill these simple matras in to our daily life then we are armed with the mindset to embrace the change as it comes.
By renaming these experiences in real time, we can retame them. In retaming them, they become real. In all their realness, we still feel different, but we become the active author of this season and that feels safe and whole. With the words I have chosen to reflect on and share with you, my hope is to help you identify your own real self too. I encourage you to retame it. I encourage you to make it as real as possible.
Let the words you read here meet you where you are today. Nothing more. Stay curious about yourself and the rest will follow.